Life is a series of transitions, some natural and expected, others seemingly forced upon us and which make us feel powerless and afraid. You may take the view that ‘everything happens for a reason’, or ‘as one door closes another opens’, or you may feel at the affect of something far greater and almost persecutory.
However you approach transitions the one sure thing about life – aside from death and taxes – is that you will face periods of uncertainty and change and it is how you approach these periods that can affect your long term physical and mental wellbeing.
A healthy transition is one in which you are ready let go, prepared, as best you can be, for what will come and with a sense of inner peace.
Within most transitions there is an element of loss, perhaps we lose a loved one or have to adapt to new relationships, surroundings or roles. Within each change there is the shedding of one skin and the acceptance of a new one. Some changes are the cause of great joy, others can be painful and even shaming.
You cannot escape loss and change within life, but you can bring harmony to your mind, body and soul by being proactive and seeking out whatever it is within you that is preventing you from feeling complete as you move forward.
What would feeling complete feel like? Well the short answer is that you would feel an inner peace, a sense of well being and of having a place in this world. A sense that is often more easily defined by its opposite: a restlessness; repetitive seeking and searching; a need to escape the world or an abiding sense of loss that is greater than one situation or one person.
If you are able, through the actions you take, to align your mind, body and soul behind the choices you are making then you step forward from a place of completeness, not fragmentation, even when those choices have been forced upon you.
Each person has their own pathway through life and so the service that I offer is as unique as you are. Within the skills and qualifications that I have to offer you build your own development programme. This may include:
How you are reacting to the choices before you now will be predicated on how you dealt with transitions in the past, or indeed how your loved ones dealt with their own transitions. Mapping this out in a visual storytelling format unlocks the learning that is there. It enables you to acknowledge your strengths and your vulnerabilities and to identify any patterns to your behaviour that you need to avoid for your own well being.
By literally laying out your life’s journey in this guided way you get to retrace your steps, see the connections across the years and how your experiences have brought you to this place and equipped you with what you need to move forward. This experience is not only beneficial to you but to others too as it is the pathway to compassion and forgiveness.
It is non judgemental and many who undertake this are inspired by their own ability to thrive in seemingly impossible situations.
This is a process in which you choose cleansed and prepared crystals to create a tableau representing the difficulties you wish to resolve at this time. It draws on the potency of crystals and colour to create a spiral of healing Light into which you have placed everything you need help with. It places, if you will, your difficulties in the hands of something greater and asks for help. It is like a heartfelt prayer.
You create this tableau through conversation or in silence, supported by guided meditation.
The environment in which you are working is a healing one and I offer gentle reflections and feedback.
It has the potential to be transformative and self healing because you are taking responsibility for the change you want to manifest in your life.
It may seem a misnomer but the ability to grieve healthily is an important element in becoming complete. Grief is part of life and, for many, it generates an imperative towards personal change and development.
In order to grieve healthily it is important to understand how the pressures of society and family backgrounds can inhibit your recovery and lead to a long term avoidance of those feelings, which can then became self destructive.
One of the extraordinary things about grief is that its intensity does not diminish over time, so if it is reactivated it is as intense as it was at the beginning. However, understanding it, incorporating it into your life as part of who you are, and allowing it to inform your attitude to others can be very healing and productive not only for yourself but for society as a whole.
This is a process of not only unpicking the stories and patterns of the past but balancing the lessons accrued against the pain of that learning.
Everyone will bring to this work their understanding of soul, or their dismissal or it, and that is understood. But should you wish to explore the potential impact of unresolved issues on seemingly intractable situations in your life then that option is available to you.
It is likely to emerge during the storytelling and tableau activities.
There are many reasons why patterns keep reoccurring in our lives, or we keep recreating them. It may be our soul pressing for attention and, because that is so nebulous and often confusing, exploring this is best done with someone who has, through years of spiritual discipline, at least started to learn the language of the soul and the beauty of its gift.
I am tempted to say that this is an optional extra, but for those who recognise this deep inner calling they will know that it is not optional at all, although the timing and the setting clearly is.
Conflict, like grief, is part of life and so as part of this service I recognise that it is often an element within making, or avoiding, life changes. Conflict is not always violent, it may even be unacknowledged as a source of dis-ease or feeling victimised by life itself.
I can support you through periods of conflict by helping you to reflect on how you are contributing to it and why you are experiencing it at this time and in this way.
I can support you by providing conflict management advice, or aid your recovery from past conflicts both by drawing out understanding and offering healing which can help to restore your physical and emotional subtle bodies.
As part of a bespoke and additional service I can offer to host, or manage, a mediation process between yourself and others.
There will need to be an initial meeting where we discuss what you are looking for and what I can offer. If there is a fit then we will agree between us how to progress and what commitments we wish to make to each other.
As a guideline this work is by its nature short term, usually between 5 - 7 sessions, including the initial meeting. Because of the exploratory nature of this work I allow two hours for each session so that there is no time pressure and we can allow space for meditation, reflection and a break in order to integrate some of the insights.
Please note that regrettably we do not have stair free access. The room in which I work has a collection of crystals within it this makes the environment quite potent and so do be prepared to disclose to me before booking any ongoing health conditions.
I have a Community and Youth Work and Social Work Diploma from Goldsmiths and a MSc in Organisational Behaviour from Birkbeck, both part of the University of London.
I am a trained Grief Recovery Specialist and have a diploma in Crystal Healing from ICCH.
I undertook mediation training and am an accredited SEN Mediator.
I have had a varied career in the voluntary sector and Local Government and have worked as a mediator for twenty five years. Over the last thirty years I have built a strong foundation in spiritual teachings and practice, with a particular interest in crystals and healing.